Are you struggling to communicate? Do you feel like you keep having the same argument? Are you in a good relationship that could be great?
This course is for you.
On average, couples wait almost three years to seek help* - that's almost a thousand days in a relationship that is not serving you or your partner.
Why just survive when you could have a relationship that thrives?
What is it?
4 weekly date nights
4 conversations
Online, live learning (but don't worry, it's all anonymous!)
What will we talk about?
Together we will cover 7 principles based on 40+ years of research that will :
- Create more safety and trust in your relationship
- Repair hurts in your relationship & restore affection
- Share what really matters to you without conflict
- Understand each other better
- Rebuild and strengthen physical and emotional connection
- Boost your relationship and increase the love
- Help you to rediscover the magic in your relationship
Be guided by relationship therapist and expert Pam Custers, who has years of experience helping couples navigate their way to a happy and fulfilled relationship, and the content is based on 40+ years of research by the Gottman Institute.
*(Doherty et al, 2020)
You are invited...
Join us from the privacy of your own home
Relax, light a candle and spend dedicated time together
Four date nights, 1.5 hours each, over four weeks (we like to see you on a Thursday night so you can start Friday with a spring in your step!)
Take part anonymously with the ability to ask all those burning questions, or just listen in and take part in the activities just you two
Plus, if you have to miss a session, it's all there to catch up on
It's your moment to rediscover the magic
ENROL NOW BELOW
Week 1
We will dive into the research...
The truth about happy relationships.
What does make relationships work?
How the research can predict divorce with over 90% accuracy.
...and learn about our first principle.
Understand your partner on deeper levels by enhancing your love maps together.
Week 2
In week 2, we're jumping in with both feet and exploring three principles..
Nurturing fondness and admiration for a rock solid friendship, the foundation of all relationships.
Turning towards each other instead of away: recognising and engaging with your partner's bids of attention, and how to be seen and heard.
Letting your partner influence you. We'll look at how to let your guard down and put your ego to one side during vulnerable moments.
...plus we'll learn about two kinds of conflict to understand
The difference between solvable and perpetual problems.
The keys to managing conflict in the most efficient and gentle way possible.
Week 3
Week 3 is all about tackling solvable problems. We'll look at...
How to soften your approach for a wanted response.
Making and receive repair attempts during conflict.
Keeping a cool head during heated moments.
How to turn your conflicts into win-win situations.
...and troubleshoot the most common solvable problems
Distractions, stress, In-laws, money, housework, parenting, sex... What are the typical solvable problems for you?
Week 4
In our final week together we will...
Overcome gridlock! Together we'll explore how to work with perpetual problems that are not solvable.
Identify your own triggers and how that impacts your relationship.
...and we'll wrap up with my favourite principle: Create Shared Meaning
You will learn how to create and foster a culture within the relationship based on your shared values and goals.
So altogether you'll get
4 weekly interactive date nights packed full of information and activities and led by Gottman leader and relationship therapist, Pam Custers
The ability to anonymously ask questions during the sessions to get insight into your individual situation
A downloadable workbook to support the activities and give you space to write down your thoughts
Access to content for a whole 6 months after the course
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New cohorts being announced soon
We run several cohorts a year, with places limited to ensure each couple has the time and space to ask questions of our facilitators, reflect and learn.
Each 4 week course runs virtually, with a combination of on-demand, interactive content and live Q&A sessions.
Everything you do is anonymous, so you can ask your most important questions freely.
Take a peek at the curriculum
Is this course for us?
This course is suitable for:
Couples who are married or in a partnership
Couples at any stage of their relationship or life, from newlyweds to those celebrating their ruby anniversary
Couples who already have a good relationship, and want to make it better
Couples who might be thinking about therapy but aren't ready yet
Couples of any sexual orientation and from any faith or cultural background
Couples who would like to rediscover the relationship and spark they used to have
Engaged or pre-engaged couples
Couples expecting a baby, with a new baby, or going through IVF or adoption processes
Note: this course is not suitable for couples tackling domestic violence, emotional abuse or substance abuse. For more support on these issues, please visit your GP.
Meet Pam, your course facilitator
Pam Custers is the founder of The Relationship Practice, based in London UK. She specialises in working with couples to help them thrive in their relationships using her unique, solutions-focussed lens.
She is an acknowledged expert in the field of relationships and has featured on radio, TV and in many newspapers and magazines including the BBC, Sky, The Guardian and The Telegraph.
She is also a resident relationship expert on Paired an international platform used by RELATE.
Pam holds an M.A. in Relationship Therapy and a B.A. (Hons) in Psychology, is an accredited member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and is a Gottman leader.
What others have said about working with Pam
"Learning about the 7 principles has been absolutely essential to reinvigorate our marriage. Thank you for introducing them to us, and helping us to apply them"
"Pam was fabulous! Great mix of informative, interesting and funny"
"I can’t believe how far we have come in such a relatively short space of time. Thank you for all you have done."
"I came away feeling lighter, calmer, more peaceful, more joyful, hopeful and optimistic"
Explore
Understand the 7 principles for making marriages/partnerships work based on Gottman's 40+ years of research with 3000+ couples.
Enjoy on-demand videos, interactive exercises for you and your partner, and live Q&A sessions with our expert facilitators.
Connect
Connect with your partner using the conversation prompts and exercises. Enjoy strengthening your relationship and growing both physical and emotional connection.
Boost
Take this moment to grow your relationship, strengthen connection and repair hurt. Consider this the boost your relationship has been looking for.